Your Wedding: Preparing for Marriage
As people of faith, we believe that these days of preparation are truly filled with grace and favor for you by the Lord. We encourage you as a couple to turn more frequently to God in prayer and reflection. It is important to be as equally concerned about your plans for a marriage as about your plans for a wedding; searching for a sacrament more than a ceremony is key.
The preparation process begins with the FOCCUS Inventory. FOCCUS stands for Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study. It is a diagnostic inventory designed to help couples learn more about themselves and their unique relationship. It consists of 150-200 questions and takes couples about an hour to complete, and may be completed online. After completion, we will go over the results. FOCCUS is not a test, and it is not used to label couples or predict marital outcome. We use it to help couples celebrate their relationship strengths and talk to each other about topics that may need further attention.
After FOCCUS, a lead couple will be assigned to you and the parish will give you materials to help dialogue with your lead couple. Please contact Kris Larkey to arrange for a lead couple after you have finished FOCCUS. You may choose an Engaged Encounter Weekend in place of Lead Couple Sessions. Ask Kris about upcoming dates and reservation phone numbers for Engaged Encounter, if you choose this option. If neither the lead couple option nor the Engaged Encounter option work with your schedule, please ask Kris about online marriage preparation.